A: A love relationship must not be founded on lies. Telling lies is betraying trust. And once trust is betrayed in a love relationship/marriage, that union cannot stand. Who knows if there are still secrets of lies he has in stock for you? The ball is in your court. But I can help you to know what to do with this question: Is telling lies a deal breaker for you in a love relationship? If it is, the quit, if it is not, God will help you. Thank you.

A: That someone is getting older should not be a reason to rush into marriage. The cart must be put before the horse. A stable source of income must be available, as marriage requires spending. It is good that you desire to improve on your parents marriage, but do it wisely. Ensure you get your heart together first by finding the right person and putting all other appropriate measures in place that will make marriage interesting to you and your family. It is not how far but how well. However, it doesn't mean it will take forever to marry. It is my prayed for you that God will order your step aright in life and make your heart desire come to pass in Jesus name. Thank you

A: Communication is key in any love relationship. It enhances friendship and togetherness. You did not mention if your present relationship is your first. If it is, it is normal but you need to man up and be bold. But with time, you will get over it.

If your present relationship is not your first but if that has been the trend in all your relationships, you need to work more on your boldness level towards ladies. Let me now give you tips to ensure a conversation with your partner:

1. Create a conversation in her area of interest. Everyone has a soft spot for something. Find out that of your babe.

2. Talk about your spiritual lives, academics, purpose, job/career, entertainment, football, etc

3. Talk about your daily activities.

You have to be intentional about communication with your partner before you get married so that your marriage will not be boring.

If you try all the above and the issue still persists, endeavour to see me. Thank you.

A: I have explicitly discussed this topic in my book titled "The Diary Of Love Relationship" Chapter 31, kindly read. Thank you.

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A: The cause may be due to your nature. And if it is, you need to learn how to relate freely with your partner.

It may also be because both of you have not bonded enough. You both need to be friends.

It may also be because there is no enough communication between the two of you. You must be intentional to create effective communication between yourselves.

Another point is, is your partner also free with you? If he or she is not free with you, it may be the cause. Ensure your partner is also free with you.

Also, how often do you both see each other? If you do not see regularly, it may be the reason. Ensure you both see regularly. Thank you and enjoy your day.

A: A court wedding is to legalise your wedding. The certificate will be required to do certain things in the future. For instance, if you want to travel out as a couple, your court wedding certificate will be required.

And court wedding is important so that your partner will not misbehave and do you anyhow in marriage.

Thank you

A: Why would she not find it interesting? Did you people not do courtship? And if you did, what was the duration?

The truth is that there is no marriage that can't work if the two parties are ready to make it work.

Have you guys gone for counselling? I cannot advice you to divorce since I don't have the deeper knowledge of your matter.

If you don't mind, can I have a session with you guys? I believe God will do something. Thank you, and God bless you

A: You did not say whether the person is he or she. Money is needed to run a love relationship and it is through work that the money can be gotten.

However, one must know how to strike a balance between work and giving attention to your love life. What you need to do is to communicate.

You need to continue talking about it until the person listens. Also, you can report him or her to the one he or she respects so much to talk to him or her about the matter.

And if the way of life persists and the person is not ready to adjust, and you cannot condole it again, you can then make your choice of staying or quitting. Thank you and God bless you in Jesus name

A: I will advice you to start using pet name for yourselves. This will solve the problem on ground. Thank you

A: They don't want because they don't want guys that would be dragging them backward. A man that is going to be a leader at home must be up to the task academically. The intelligence gap in a relationship must not be too much. Ladies like guys who can challenge them intellectually. Ladies appreciate guys who are proactive and have self-push. Ladies like guys that are problem solvers. And to have all the above qualities, you must be educationally there because education gives exposure. Guys in the house, kindly ensure you are not educationally backward. Ensure a minimum of a BSC or its equivalent. Thank you and happy new year in advance.

A: Relax, your right man will surely come. The bible says God make things beautiful in his own time. God's time is always the best. Please do not be desperate. Do not settle for less because of age or pressure. Just ensure you develop the right qualities and relate well with people. I know one day the right man will find and approach you. Thank you and i see your love relationship at another level this year in Jesus name. Amen

A: If I may ask, why does he want to see your parent? Is it because of wedding? If it is for wedding , I feel it is too fast. Don't do that yet. You have to give yourselve time to know each other. Always remember this, the best test of love is time. Please don't let anyone rush you, rather take things one step at a time. Thank you.

A: It is appropriate and advisable for a lady to be done with a minimum of a BSc or its equivalent before going into marriage. Marriage does not disturb you from furthering your education and career. For easy balancing of marriage, education and career, you need the support of your husband. You have to carry him along on your career and academic plans before marriage to know if he will be supporting you or not. Determination is another factor you need to have. If you are not determined even if your husband is supporting you, you won't be able to balance the three together. Some women have done it before. Some are doing it, and I know you can do it, too. Thank you

A: The answer to your question is in my book, "The Diary of Love Relationship" chapter 18, kindly get one. Thank you.

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A: Long-term goals are goals that are not for now but for the future. For instance, when you are married, how many children would you like to have? Which school do you wish they would go to? Careerwise, where do you see yourself in the next 5-10years and how do you achieve it? Financially, I want to have 20million in the next 10years, how do I go about it to achieve the feat? Academically, you can have a target of having a PhD before 40years. You have to plan for it to achieve that. Purposewise, I want to use my talents and gifts to impact 1,000 lives before I clock 40years. It goes on and on like that. Individually, you will have your long-term goals, but you must both think about how you can harmonise them so that one will not affect the other and everyone will be happy and fulfilled. Thank you and enjoy your day.

A: May I ask you, does God speak to you through dreams? If yes, it implies that God is telling you something about your partner through the dreams. More so, the hiding in the dream may imply your partner is hiding something from you which may be a secret. Pray to God for more clarity. Thank you and enjoy your day.

A: This situation is possible and there is nothing bad about it. Just that the two of you must agree and work together so that it will not show that the wife is earning more than the husband. As the husband, you need to seek your wife's support to always be of help whenever you are unable to meet the payment of some bills. That is why she is your helpmeet. Also, you need to upskill so that you can get a better job which can give you enough income to cover your bills at home. Thank you and I see God helping you.

A: During any misunderstanding, it is proper that polite words are used so that the situation will not be aggravated. It is better to avoid any situation of misunderstanding but whenever it arises, caution must be taken by keeping calm and talking politely. This is because in any misunderstanding, no two wrongs can make a right. Thank you and enjoy your day.

A: Let the two of you pray the prayer of agreement to God for another job. I know God will provide since He sees the sincerity in your hearts. But he should not resign until he gets another job. Thank you.

A: If I get you well from your question, your partner has never given you something whenever you ask him. If it is yes, this is not good. Love is giving. And in any love relationship, giving is important. It may be that your partner is stingy or that he does not love you. You are the one to find out which one. The truth is that getting married to a stingy person or someone who does not love you is wrong. If anyone does, the experience in the marriage will not be palatable. Do your assignment well to know if your partner is either stingy or does not love you. Then the ball is in your court to make your decision either to continue or not. Thank you.

A: It may be that there's a trust issue between the two of you, or there are things she knows about you that you don't know. I will advise you to sit her down and have a serious discussion.

Ask her why she does what she is doing and I know you will likely get a clue from that discussion.

Thank you.

A: Naturally, women like pampering and care. If petting is the language your partner wants, kindly give it to her. And if you also need petting, you can have a talk with her too so that she will also know that it has to be a two-way approach. I know once you tell her, she will likely adjust and oblige you too.

Thank you.

A: From your question, I don't think your mind is fully with the guy because you are distracted by other guys. To say yes is your decision but I will guide you.

Have you prayed about it? Have you confirmed if he is the will of God for you?

Can you cope with his character and weaknesses?

Before you say yes, you must answer the above questions.

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A: We have people like that. They think negatively. And they developed this type of thinking style due to the following: background, religious belief, upbringing, bad past, circle of friends, environment, daily activities, etc. And to make people like these change their style of thinking, it will take time and patience. My advice for you is that if you know she is God's will for your life, you need to be patient with her. Always reaffirm your love for her. Show her more love. Talk to her more. Be friend with her more and be praying for her also. You can also take her for therapy too. If after you have now exhausted all the above methods and you do not see changes, you can then make the choice you deem fit. Thank you.

A: A man with this attitude still needs to be talked to. The relationship you have with your partner is different from the one you have with your family. And one must not affect the other. Anyone who wants to marry must not have such an attitude described in the question. Such an individual is not yet ready for marriage. If the person does not change, it is not advisable to marry such a person. Thank you.

A: If I may ask, did you guys seek God's face before starting this relationship? If not, kindly go and do so to know if truly you are in God's will for your lives. If you did, your guy has to step up spiritually because the man is supposed to be the priest of the home. And it is important that you both get a mentor you can both submit to that can guide you. Thank you.

A: It is possible that the wife's salary is higher than that of the husband. And there is nothing bad in that. But the wife must be very careful in the way she deals with her husband so that he will not be intimidated. As the wife, you need to respect your husband more so that he will not feel that it is because of your higher income that is causing your arrogance or wrong attitude. For your husband to be saying you should resign, it implies that he has been noticing a certain attitude in you which may be making him feel intimidated and uncomfortable. Kindly have a serious talk with him so that he will speak out. Then assure him to change and to be intentional to please him. I will not advise you to resign from your job if the husband's salary cannot take good care of the family and set up a business for the wife. And if he still insists on you resigning, you can inform someone he respects to talk to him. Thank you.

A: It is a lie that not having sex will make a man have a running stomach. Kindly pay a visit to the hospital to see the doctor about what is wrong with you but I know for sure that it is not a sex-related issue. Thank you.

A:You know you cannot marry all of them. It is only one that will be meant for you. What you need to do is to go to God in prayer to lead you right. You need divine leading when it comes to choosing a marital partner. Do not say yes to any of them yet if you have not gotten divine leading from God. When it comes to marital choice our human reasoning alone is not enough because it has limited capacity. Please don't let anyone pressure you into any relationship. Take your time and involve God through prayers. Thank you.

A: I will not say yes or no if it exists or not. The truth is that different religious beliefs and culture have their ways of helping people to determine their compatibility whenever they want to make the right marital choice. But as a Christian, our standard to choose is God. He is the one we believe in to direct us right. See, what I want to tell you is that, know how God talk or communicates with you. When you pray to Him concerning your marital choice, He will surely respond back to you through that means understandably. Thank you.

A: It is not appropriate for in-laws to keep interfering in the marriage of their children. If you react, it is not a sin but it is not wise. And I will not advise you react because it is not your fight but your spouse's. It is the responsibility of your spouse to caution his or her parents and to place limit to how far they can interfere. Kindly have a heart- to -heart discussion with your spouse concerning this issue. Ask him or her why he or she has not done anything concerning the issue. Discuss the limits on what to tell and discuss with your parents concerning your marriage. And after all these, if the problem persists, kindly book a session with me. I would like to have time with the two of you. Thank you.

A: Thank God that the plan has been revealed to you, it is not advisable to have anything to do with her else you will regret it, since you said you feel guilty for leaving her, just make amends by apologizing but do not let any romantic attachment be involved. Thank you.

A: There is nothing wrong with marrying someone older than you once it is the will of God, I still don't get why yiu are scared, it implies something is wrong somewhere and I would not advise you go into marriage with him unless you identify and solve what your fear is. Thank you.

A: Having the same purpose is one of the ways to know your compatibility with your partner and to confirm if your partner is God's will or not. But it is not the only one, there are other criteria that must be met. You can know them from my book titled How to make the right marital choice in life. Find the link below. Thank you

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A: When you have not gotten any leading from God, it is not advisable to go into a love relationship. It will look as if you are preempting. And it may likely influence you on God's will for you. If I may ask, did the sister pray about you? If not, let the two of you go and pray we'll for God's leading. Don't just fall for the fact that she likes you to agree cheaply like that. Confirm if she is truly God's will for your life first. Thank you and I see God helping you.

A: What I will advise is that when next you finish talking, tell him I love you and wait to hear his response. If he refuses to say it then ask him why he has been avoiding saying I love you. Ask him if it is because he is shy or because he does not love you. Hear him out and his response will tell you the future of the relationship. If he promises to change and he still refuses to say I love you, you then need to know that he does not love you. Thank you.

A:There are some people who cannot work under pressure. Whenever they are under pressure, their mood will change. But change is the only constant thing in life. Such a person can still change. If you can manage pressure, you can teach and talk to him how to manage pressure. Also, let him read books and attend self-development programmes which will enhance his skill of managing pressure. Let him also mix with people who are good at managing pressure. If he is committed to the above, he will be better at managing pressure. Thank you

A: Cheating on one's partner is bad. But have you asked him why he is doing this? Can you please find out why? Was he a cheat before you married or did he just start it ? And have you informed his parents and your mentor? If yes, what did they say and what have they done? If no, kindly inform them. I will not advise you on the option of divorce if you have not utilised all the above options. You can get back to me after you have utilised all the options above. Thank you and it is well with you and your family.

A:You need to have a conversation with him and ask him why he starts hiding his phone when chatting. Hear him out and know what is going on. If he says nothing, request to check his phone. If he still insists on not giving you, it is then clear he is hiding something from you. If after all these you know you can't accommodate his excesses again, the choice is yours: you either leave or still stay. Thank you

A: Parental consent is very important before someone gets married. In the case your parents are not agreeing with you. You have to take it cool and handle it prayerfully. Parents can't just say no to their ward"s love relationship with someone without having reasons. You need to patiently and humbly discuss with them to know their reasons. You can after that raise your own concern with them so that they will reason along with you. Please do not fight or disrespect them if they still insist. After this, you can inform someone they respect to intervene. You can also handle this situation spiritually by praying to God to convince them. This will be possible if you are sure the person is the God's will for your life. Thank you and enjoy your day.

A: Getting married should be all about marrying the right person. It must not be rushed. Getting married must not be about the age you must marry but whenever you marry, you marry right. See, if you have prayed about the guy and it is the will of God for you, and you both love yourselves, wait for him for the two years he requested for to start your lovely home. Please do not let getting older age-wise put you under unnecessary pressure. Let your focus be on how to marry right to enjoy your marriage. Thank you and I see God helping you.

A: Kindly pray about it first and get the leading from the Holy Spirit. If the leading is confirmed, go to her and make your intention known to her. Don't be scared you don't have a job since you are not lazy to work. Approach her and at the same time be searching for a job. Thank you

A:What is happening to you is normal if you really love the guy. But since you are no longer together, you have to erase him from your mind by doing the following:

1. Avoid and delete anything concerning him like pictures, social media handles, etc

2. If you are living in the same location, change your environment by leaving the place for a while.

3. Get involved in tasks you like that are productive to keep you busy.

4. Open your heart for love

5. Pray concerning it for God to help you forget him.

Thank you

A: It is the husband that should love more.

A: The answer to your question is below, an excerpt from my book titled The Diary of Love Relationship. And always remember that the true test of love or lust is time. Before you finally agree to marry someone, put the love to the test of time. Thank you

A: It is not right for a Christian single to do such. Involving in two-timing is a sign of unloyalty, lack of trust and integrity. Dating multiple partners may lead you to lose all of them once they know you have multiple partners. I want to put it to you, would you want to be in a love relationship with someone having multiple partners? Read more on two-timing in the excerpt of my book titled The Diary of Love Relationship. Thank you

A: It is not good for a partner to be lying or cheating. And I feel your spouse did not just develop these habits. He must have been doing them before you got married. It might be he pretended for you or you overlooked the red flags. Now to how to handle such a person in marriage:

1. Call for a serious conversation between you and him. Ask him why he is doing what he is doing. Let him know your pains about it and how you are being hurt.

2. If there are no changes after using option 1, inform his mentor or someone he respects about his atrocities.

3. Be praying for him.

4. If after all the above there are no changes, book a session with me and let me have a discussion with you and your husband.

Thank you and I pray God will uphold your home in Jesus name. Amen

A: You people do not need to have everything in the whole world before you get married. You can start small and things will work out. Since you know you are both in love and your parents have consented. You don't have a problem. Just ensure there is a stable source of income which can sustain the two of you for a start. Get a small accommodation that you both like. After this, you can go for a very low-level wedding ceremony and begin your lives together. Thank you